Bhāvābhāvagitam - Song of the Feeling of Want
What do I want?
This is a big question,
for it decides what I do.
And thus, the path I take.
Eventually, this very question decides, for me,
who I am.
My needs, however,
and their fulfillment,
or otherwise,
merely decides how long I will continue pursuing
the path of being myself.
So, once again,
let us see if we can separate
my 'needs' and my 'wants'.
Defining a 'need' is simple: that which is necessary for me to live.
Defining a 'want' is more problematic,
perhaps: that which I love, or desire.
Or, perhaps: that without which I would not consider life a necessity.
Or, perhaps: a lack or deficiency of something.
Looking at these differently:
a Need is an Objective Reality.
Being Objective Reality, my needs are often similar
to the needs of others like me. I need food.
Another person, say, my infant nephew, will also need food,
since he is a human like me. But,
weighing a tenth of what I weigh, despite growing,
he will perhaps need no more than a fifth of the food that I need.
The amount differs,
but our needs are similar.
He does
not need no food.
Also, he does
not need to eat a million times as much as me.
Further, he does
not need enriched Uranium for food.
He, too,
needs the same carbs and proteins and fats and vitamins that I do.
Thus our need is the same,
with a minor variation in the amount,
not in the kind, nor in the reason each needs it for.
We both will die if our need for food is not fulfilled.
Similarly, air, water, sleep, excretion, shelter, homeostasis and so forth.
Needs are thus necessarily undeniable, similar, predictable and mostly, fulfillable.
On the other hand,
a Want is a Subjective Reality,
often created through an interaction with an Intersubjective Reality.
Being a Subjective Reality, one of my wants may be similar
or vastly different from those of others like me -
in quantum, class, kind, reason, or even the very existence.
Thus, even though I and my nephew may both
(or may not)
want to suck on a breast at this time,
his and my reasons are entirely different.
For both, wanting or not wanting it.
Similarly, even when he is all grown up,
one of us may insist on partaking orifices,
and the other, mouthpieces. And even if we both
find ourselves looking for the same kind of an opening,
we are likely to differ vastly in the want
of the human appendage to that, say, the mouthpiece.
Assuming that we, for a moment
remove the need-part of this want here,
there is comparatively little
that is Objective in this or any other want.
I have found
that I want many things differently,
not just from other fellow humans,
but from my own past too. But,...
...want, I do.
Though, no particular want is necessarily undeniable, similar, predictable and always fulfillable.
...want, I do.
And, for some of those wants, I would, if convenient, choose to not live,
than live without their fulfillment.
...want, I do.
And, these very wants, fulfilled or unfulfilled, make me the person that I am,
and am becoming.
Thus emerges the greatest
and the toughest question
that any human has ever faced:
what do I do?
This question,
and its variegated variants
are all so important
because answering in one way
results in me (and the world)
turning out very differently in future,
than when answering it another way.
And tough,
because we have absolutely no clue
about the ground that it has to stand on,
before it is answered. Newton said it
most eloquently,
"if I have seen further it is by standing on ye sholders of Giants."
The ground
that this question stands on,
can well be that of any of the realities:
Subjective, Intersubjective, Objective, Absolute.
If I choose the ground to be
my Subjective Reality, then I shall only follow
the commands of Hedone,
to an early grave. Others may turn out to be ripper jacks, or perhaps teresas.
Or most likely, an average frustrated joe.
The problem, thus,
in using this ground is that my Subjective Reality
is true only for me,
and thus not a reality at all,
on which one can base one's interactions
with anyone, and expect success.
Intersubjective Reality as the ground
can make me a hitler, a pope or a president. Or,
most likely, a mere foot-soldier
to one of the myriad social systems that I exist in.
So, this reality, while it can help with people
that constitute the group
from which I obtain my Intersubjective Reality,
it is perfectly useless
in predicting how other groups will respond.
It is, of course,
not possible for me, or any of us,
to ground this question in Absolute Reality,
for that is the 'Real' Reality -
the un-mind-mediated reality,
to which none of us have any access.
This leaves me
only one reality to ground my question in:
Objective Reality -
the reality that is true for all beings known to us,
including those, that we understand not as beings, but as phenomena.
However,
we do not know it well enough.
It is always a work in progress.
The point at which we have reached so far,
leads me to two possible,
unsynonymous answers: progress and happiness.
I may want to progress,
to achieve goals:
career, corporate, financial, economic, political, national, social,
intellectual, creative, family, biological, fitness, sexual, emotional,
HDI, environmental, consumption, sporting, competitive,
reproductive, religious, fraternal, spiritual,
educational, beauty, romantic and any other goals
that I may find worthy of the tag 'Progress'.
There is a problem here, however.
If I must achieve high goals,
I have to set up higher expectations from myself.
Unless I aim for the moon,
I cannot get the lamppost.
But, if I do that,
I am always wanting; I am always inadequate,
my expectations are always belied,
I am always unhappy.
If I set my goals at achievable levels, and achieve them,
I may feel happy at my mediocre performance.
But I will never amount to much,
by way of achievements relative to my peers.
And even by my own internal measure.
Thus I can Progress. Or I can be Happy.
Men have almost always chosen Progress.
Except for exceptional individuals like the Buddha,
Jesus, Mahavira, Laozi and such. And each attained nirvana.
Which is freedom from misery,
even when they got their fair or unfair share of pain.
What do I want?
Progress? Which can never end, and can never fulfill my ever-growing want.
Or, Happiness? Which requires me to first lack nothing;
and thus extinguish my want at all levels: from its root.
And with it, all my feelings. Which, hitherto
were perhaps, the best possible proof of my actually existing.
What do I do?
What can I actually do?
Which must I gun for?
Which must I want?
Progress or Happiness?
The former, Progress, is logically
and evidentially unachievable.
Excepts for minor wayside halts,
which make us happy for ever so brief moments only.
And destroys far too much on the way.
Of us.
Of our fellow travellers.
Of the way.
But, what if,
we actually can define our Progress
in an area that gives us happiness.
A more lasting happiness
than a mere hormone-driven set-pointed variety?
Something that gives us
a meaningful purpose. Which, often will only be
another delusion, like living for
'godswork', 'myfamily', 'thehavenots',
and so forth?
Or,
the latter, Happiness,
which is impossible.
Or, is it?
Can it not be expected,
that like in all human endeavours of progress,
in the arena of Happiness,
we will keep pushing the frontiers
of our knowledge and execution
incrementally, getting ever closer to it,
even if never actually reaching?
Would,
Can,
Should it
not be nearly enough,
for a mere lucky ape like me?
And in that dilemma,
hangs another piece of Objective Reality.
It is sufficiently clear,
that there exists no free will,
that our system, mind or whatever else,
has already made our decisions,
before we become aware of them,
and grandly, if somewhat pettily,
declare that
we have decided.
Thus my decision is already made,
for every future twist and turn in my life,
whether I will choose Progress, or Happiness.
Only the awareness remains to be had.
Or at least
that is what all our biological and neurological knowledge
available to me,
tells me.
Or, is it,
rather like Schrodinger's cat,
simultaneously, both Progress
and Happiness?
And it becomes one of them
when I get to that point and find out?
Either way,
there seems to be no conscious control
that I have on this choice:
it is either one determined,
or either one by chance!
Is it all merely a game, as suspected,
of the hormones,
Serotonin and Oxytocin and Dopamine and others
that play in the grounds that I call my brain,
leading my mind to one or the other,
Progress or Happiness?
How far do we go in each?
Is the level of Progress that we can get to,
hard-wired into us,
or can it be impacted by us,
especially when there is no free will?
Are we nothing but the playthings
of those known,
unknown or unknowable agencies
that really are the ones making the play?
Perhaps the genes?
Perhaps the memes?
Perhaps the tissues?
Perhaps the cells?
Perhaps the collective of cells?
Perhaps the social organism, the collective of any species?
Perhaps the simulator whose simulation we are, or his simulator?
Perhaps, one of the concepts we have rejected?
Perhaps, one of the concepts we have not arrived at yet?
Perhaps, one of the concepts we do not have the wherewithal to arrive at?
Perhaps the non-conceptual entities
or non-entities
that we have no ability to ever understand?
But closer home:
is it really that my Happiness has a set point
and not much progress can be made in moving that point
into happier climes, or can I do something
to make myself happier?
But is that
also not preprogrammed?
Is there anything that I do know?
That I can know?
Or is it that I exist, merely
to want,
and to blindly pursue those wants?
And even when I do that,
why do I have mutually exclusive wants?
When I get Progress, I do not get Happiness?
And vice-versa?
Do we thus come to another one
of my Heisenberg points and poems!
Or perhaps,
this seems so because
I live not in a reality,
but in a shadow of the same.
The reality is never in my grasp,
since all that I see around me,
including myself,
are mere conscious shadows of what really
is.
I do not make proper sense of it
because, just like our two-dimensional shadows
(who may well be conscious - in another way)
combine and separate
and create ever new, unreal patterns all the time,
which exist,
and look somewhat and uncannily sensible,
because the 3D relatively-real entities
behave relatively logically and evidentially.
The 3D shadows too, similarly, merge and emerge,
increasing and decreasing the information of the real,
in my shadow world,
confounding me no end.
Whatever the
real real is,
whatever it can be,
leaving aside all intellectual contortions,
I must address my raw biological wants
the primary of which is the one
that I seem to never get rid of:
the love that I want from The One.
But why is it that I always want His love to be mine alone,
and yet myself want the love of another in another moment?
Why is it that I do not have the same want
in all moments of my life?
Why is it that I always want Him
and yet want something, someone else, soon enough?
Why do I not know what I really want?
Or, can I
really want anything?
What do I want?
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Annexure:
And,
in case,
you are wondering why I insist
on writing such long philosophical rants
in poetry and not in prose, it is perhaps,
my laziness, and 'disintegrity',
so that I can get away
with doing a partial job of explaining myself,
expressing myself in a jumble of prose and poetry, philosophy and love,
thoughts and feelings, intellectual and emotional, clear and creative,
rather than stick to one, the former, or the latter
and prove that I am either a bad philosopher,
or a bad poet.
Or, perhaps,
this is my unique process of making love to you,
by impregnating your mind with a million ideas,
or more precisely
sending your way
a million 'thoughtsperms',
of which a few might find a warm,
nurturing egg in your mind,
become yours
and produce a fully formed beauty
that you can justifiably be proud of.
And if you will allow me,
I shall also be a minor, proud parent of the same.
So long as he is anchored in love.
To me, it 'feels' like the latter.
For I am,
in physical person,
committed to making love
without increasing the human load on my ecosystem.
Thus, I could only spawn
thoughts and feelings.
And no vehicle does a better job of expressing my
'thoughtfeelings'
or 'feltthoughts',
which is what all my poetry is about.
So, please allow me that,
if not 'fatherishhood'.
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